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This is a summary of the Art of Seduction 24 Steps involving the Seductive Process. Alongside being the final part of this series.

The Seductive Process 24 Points

Choose the Correct Victim

 

The ideal victim does not revolve around their ambitions, looks or personal tastes. Instead, they influence and attract you in a way that words are insufficient to describe. The target possesses a feature that you desire and lack in your own life – which interests you, fostering jealousy.

Above all, your potential target needs to be open to your charm. As well as having weaknesses that you could capitalize on. Focus more on those reactions outside of conscious control:

• blushing
• copying a gesture
• a strange modesty
• maybe even a blaze of outrage or hatred.

 

 Create a False Sense of Security – Approach Indirectly

 

Initiating direct contact with the target from the get-go is problematic as you risk working up their defensive mindset. The seduction process ought to begin in a roundabout way, indirectly, so that the target steadily becomes aware of your presence.

Exist in the outskirts of your target’s line of sight, then move toward through the ranks from an outsider developing a somewhat impartial relationship, gradually changing continuously in terms of friendship levels.

Orchestrate a universe controlled “opportunity” experience, as though you and your objective were bound to become familiar — nothing is more enticing than a feeling of fate. Allow your target to have a false belief of reassurance, then strike. Friendly conversations with the recipient aids in bringing their defences down whilst at the same time providing insights into their likes/ dislikes, character, upbringing.

 

Send Mixed Signals

 

When individuals know about your presence and hold a slight fascination about you, you must incite their interest before it moves to somebody else. Features that are eye catching at first fleet with time, as ambiguity is significantly more potent.

It is more advantageous to be more secretive / hidden than transparent.

Sending contrasting elements of your character which coexist adds depth to your personality. As you also avoid being one dimensional, which confuses the other persons perception of you. The contrasting quality needs to be subtle, evoking the recipient to wonder.

 

Appear to Be the Object of Desire – Create Triangles

 

How can others be expected to be attracted to individuals who others stay away from or disregard?  As humans we are drawn in by people who everyone else wants to talk to. We desire what everyone else desires.

Manipulate your targets into desiring to have you by being surrounded by a sense of allure — of being needed and sought by a larger number of people. It plays to their vanity for them to be the favoured object of your consideration, to win you away from a horde of admirers.

Fabricate the deception of fame by encircling yourself with individuals from the other gender. Make triangles between people that invigorate competition, raising  your worth. Construct a standing that goes before you: if numerous have capitulated to your charms, there should be an explanation.

Create a Need – Stir Anxiety and Discontent

 

Simply put, a content person comfortable in their own skin can’t be seduced. Your participant’s mind need to be in a state of disharmony, as the tension perpetuates their feeling of dissatisfaction.

Inspect the despondency with their current conditions and within themselves:

• their life needs more colourful experiences
• they have wandered from the standards of their childhood
• they have become boorish.

These serious insecurities will give you space to suggest yourself. Accordingly, people consider you to be the solution to their concerns. Torment and uneasiness are the appropriate forerunners to joy.

How can you help them in their plight?

Bring up their past ideals which have soured in time and how there is still hope via yours truly.

To remedy ourselves for my own deficiencies is taxing. So we prefer to let another person do the hard work, willing to be led on in the process. Make individuals restless about the future, make them discouraged. Highlight potential problems in their personality and the mechanical bore of their daily routine. You will represent a break from their drab life with your outsider status and interesting friends.

 

Master the Art of Insinuation

 

When making the recipient feel frustrated you need to avoid being seen as a conniving fiend. Place ideas in people’s heads by merely mentioning it. Gradually let the idea fester and it later re-emerges in their mind as their own. Insinuation is a sublanguage — striking comments followed by an apologetic withdrawal.

Ambiguous statements that lead to further questioning. Speech that makes the other person imagine more, entering the objective’s psyche to convey your genuine meaning. Make everything intriguing.

Imply negative uncertainty with a remark about the recipient’s life, causing the casualty to feel helpless.

To suggest desire you should enact:

• Slight physical contact
• fleeting memorable look
• an abnormally warm manner of speaking for the briefest of minutes.

A passing remark recommends that something about the person in question interests you; yet keep it vague, your words uncovering a chance, making a doubt.

 

Enter Their Spirit

 

People feel secure in their own surroundings making them obstinate and difficult to convince. To help them feel comfortable around you, enter their soul. Play by their guidelines, appreciate what they appreciate, adjust to their mind-sets.

In doing so you will stroke their established self-centeredness and lower their safeguards. Entranced by the perfect representation you present, they will open up. Henceforth, becoming powerless to your hidden inconspicuous impact.

Before long you can move the dynamic: when you have entered their soul you can cause them to enter yours. At this point there is little hop of a chance of return.

Enjoy your partner’s every state of mind and impulse. To do this, give them nothing to respond against or stand up to. However, you must still show signs of your identity instead of acting as a mirror replica of your recipient.

 

 Create Temptation

 

Draw the recipient into your temptation by enticement: a short insight into the future joys that you behold. Make them aware of their issues which they have no mastery over.  Track down that shortcoming of theirs, that dream that presently can’t seem to be understood. Importantly, hint that you can lead them toward it.

It could be:

1. the riches you own
2. multitude of experiences
3. that which is taboo

The key is to keep it ambiguous. Hang the award before their eyes, deferring fulfilment, and let their mind want more. Curiosity needs to overpower their questions and tensions that go with it, so that they follow you.

 

Keep Them in Suspense – What Comes Next?

 

The moment that the participant feels as though they know what’s in store from you, your illusion over them disappears. You have surrendered your own power.

Avoid this form an anticipation / determined shock by injecting drama into your pursuit.

Keep them pondering about what you are upto by continually accomplishing feats they don’t anticipate from you. A mesmerizing feeling of suddenness consumes them — they will not have the option to predict what comes straightaway.

You are generally the one placing spice into the relationship.

There is one situation in everyone will joyfully surrender their standard reluctancy: when they are promised a shock / surprise. Maybe it is a present hidden within somewhere, a game with an unforeseeable ending, a journey where the end destination remains a mystery, a gripping conclusion to a story. People are willing to listen if the possibility of ecstasy is within their grasp.

 

Use the Demonic Power of Words to Sow Confusion

 

A common challenge during seduction is ensuring that the participant is listening to what you have to say. They are consumed with their own contemplations and wants, lacking the capacity to deal with yours. The secret to stirring their interest into listening to your voice is to recite whatever it is they wish to hear. Using vocabulary pleasant to them.

Kindle the recipient’s feelings with loaded phrases, compliment them, cosy their weaknesses. Encompass them in dreams, sweet words, and guarantees. Keep your language obscure, allowing them to interpret it later on. Focus on how the words you voice sound not on the logic behind them.

 

Pay Attention to Detail

 

The subtle gestures you conduct in the seductive process, the off-hand acts, are enchanting and uncovering. Pleasant little ceremonies / rituals should occupy the mind of your target. Normally as they are customized only for them. This includes, garments and decorations intended only to satisfy them.

The gestures reflect that you have been paying attention to what they have said. Their senses are being flooded by the details you have designed. Make scenes to astonish their eyes; hypnotized by what they see, they won’t see what you are truly doing.

 

Poeticize Your Presence

 

Being elusive will supplement the recipients rose coloured image of you. At the point when you are away, they will long to see you in the future. Therefore, your presence will be synonymous with charming imagery.

Consume their brains by substituting an energizing presence with a cool distance. Rich pleasure filled minutes follow determined nonattendances. Partner yourself with poetic idyllic objects and images, as they associate you with an admired radiance. Feed these dreams by irregularities in your behaviour and mood swings.

 

Disarm Through Strategic Weakness and Vulnerability

 

When avoiding suspicion, cover your tracks by positioning the recipient as the dominant superior via their actions. Make yourself appear powerless/ defenceless, excited by the other individual. You are unable to control yourself in their presence (you will make your activities look more normal, less scripted). Humanize yourself by allowing the recipient to view a glimpse of your weakness, which you should not hide.

Playing up your shortcoming — tears, modesty — will assist with making the impact. Demonstrate how genuine you are through openly admitting some past sin , which you want to change but are unable to. Subsequently, by playing the victim of your emotions you can supplement the recipient’s empathy to love.

 

 Confuse Desire and Reality – The Perfect Illusion

 

People daydream as a coping mechanism regarding the troublesome state of their lives. Envisioning a future brimming with romance, wild experiences, glamorous achievements. Conjure their dreams into actuality, then the participant would be in glee since they are living in their ethereal realm.

These dreams should not stray too much from the physical reality but would ideally exist within them. Orient yourself as the medium who can access these repressed dreams. When they are incapable of differentiating between their fantasy and reality, you have succeed

 

 Isolate the Victim

 

If a person is chucked in the middle of a remote desert island. If the only form of companionship is you, then they become dependent on your presence. Being a pillar of support, the recipient accepts previous detestable attributes you have.

There are two forms of isolation.

Psychological isolation requires your image / presence to feed into the surrounding atmosphere of the recipient.  You provide them with undivided attention. This will differ yourself from the crowd since you encapsulate pleasure.

Physical isolation is when the participant is in a prison like state, away from their family, entering a new world. Once again you become a source of pleasure. Since you provide them with support and let them enjoy the new world, gaining their approval.

Beware of the danger of isolating someone instantaneously, as they would likely run away in a panic.

 

Prove Yourself

 

Believe it or not everyone wants to be under the spell of a romantic seduction. In the case of the recipient resisting your endeavours, the opposition arose from the fact that you have not diffused their doubts. Your motives, the extent of your emotions, remain under scrutiny.

Banish their doubts via a heroic orchestrated action.  Do not think of the consequences as you are foregoing everything else in the world for someone else’s cause.

As long as the action is self-sacrificing and for your recipient’s sake, they won’t take into account anything else but the selfless act. All things considered, address the difficulty by accomplishing something outrageous / courageous – meaningful to them.

Alternately, you yourself would also need to make yourself unreachable in a latter situation. Thus create problems are worth fighting about in order to achieve a satisfying resolution.

 

Effect a Regression

 

In some cases, people yearn to relive the pleasures of childhood. Depending on the situation you could assume the role of the watchful parent guiding the needy child. Correspondingly you amend the parental role that they have previously suffered from.

Enact the unconditional love a parent towards their child. Otherwise, you must be the naïve child who needs parental security. This involves allowing your partner to take on the sympathetic responsible role of guardianship. Exaggerate your helplessness and vulnerability.

 

Stir up the Transgressive and the Taboo

 

People are limited by societal rules and expectations. This hinders the role they play in relationships since they must be attuned with the mainstream view of social acceptability.

People want to transgress these boundaries and witness first-hand what is that they are deprived of. Inviting your partner to indulge in this enticement, creates a dangerous experience. Whereby both of you are taking a glimpse into the dark side of romance – which society does not approve of.

Not everything in love should be heartfelt and delicate, as breaking the rules signifies adventure. Disregard all existing laws. When your partner has cravings to violate further, it will be difficult for them to stop. Take them farther than they envisioned — the common sensation of culpability and complicity will make a strong bond.

 

Use Spiritual Lures

 

Whilst most people see seduction as purely physical, the spiritual side is mainly ignored. Bait them out of their uncertainties by making them the centre of something grand and profound. Such as a religious experience or the occult.

Hype their heavenly characteristics:

• influence an air of discontent with common things
• discuss the celestial, fate
• the secret strings that join you and your partner that the universe has ordained.

Lost in the sense of spiritual, portray your relationship as the divine union of two souls, just as stars intersect.

 

Mix Pleasure with Pain

 

It is a grave mistake to be one dimensionally nice, your charm will eventually appear repetitive, as well as appearing overanxious. You have to constantly be hot and cold, giving them considerable attention at one junction only to sporadically become uninterested.

Cause them to feel remorseful and uncertain. Even induce a separation, exposing them to emptiness and agony when they are without you. This will give you the space to revisit the earlier honeymoon stage of the relationship.

 

Give Them Space to Fall—The Pursuer Is Pursued

 

If you are constantly on the offensive, your partner will eventually get bored of this dynamic and invest less energy in this relationship.

Flip that coffee table and reverse the situation.

Once they fall for your illusion and appreciate you, take a step back, so that they are incentivized to pursue you. Act unaware and commit to a sudden nonappearance, a clue that you are becoming increasingly bored of them.

Bring gasoline to the fire by appearing to be keen on someone else. None of this should be directly explicit. Let the imagination of the recipient run wild, stirring the dual powerful emotions of doubt and desire. Their downfall is ripe since your aim is to trigger them to fall into your arms out of their own volition.

 

Use Physical Lures

 

Place your partners minds at ease and arouse their dormant senses. Join a confident non-defensive demeanour (in which you act as though there is nothing wrong) within a sexual presence. Don’t force the physical, make the situation second nature to you.

Lead them into the passion filled second — when the momentum creates a heightened present situation.  In this scenario morals, judgement and future problems are all ignored, and the body capitulates to joy. Let your partner enter your physical spirit of carefreeness disregarding the problems of the world around.

In the run up to this physical situation there are no burdens, you take nothing personally. Do not talk of jobs, responsibilities, marriage, the past or future. That is what the rest of the populace does.

Instead, present the unique prospect of losing oneself within the moment where senses flourish at the expense of the rationality. Shared physical experiences are the key, since the participant will follow suit to your practices.

 

Master the Art of the Bold Move

 

Yes, THAT moment is now here.

Your partner undeniably wants to be with you. But they chose not to openly confess to it or act on their feelings. This is an ideal opportunity to toss to the side valour, thoughtfulness, coldness. As the aim should be to overpower them with a strong move.

Beforehand you can create a situation of turmoil, which will soon be forgotten.

The recipient should not think about the outcomes.  If you are anxious or hesitating it implies you are only considering yourself. Rather than being overpowered by the charm of your target. Do not hold back or go in half-heartedly. One individual must go into all-out attack mode, and it is YOU.

 

Beware the After-Effects

 

After a historic success in your seduction, daily routine appears to be on the horizon.

This must be avoided in the sense that it suggests a loss of adventure. As well as emotional insecurity that you have previously revelled in.

Make sure the illusion does not dissipate. Perhaps you have to initiate a second seduction over the same person. Essentially, there is a perpetual chase between you and your partner.

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